My older one is in Middle School. It was a sudden hit to me. All of a sudden I am hit with language I could not even tolerate from adults. I remained strict about the language used in the house. In our home we don't have cable nor do we use what is termed as inappropriate language. Now in 7th grade and I still hear outbursts and I don't know what to do. I am stuck with the thought maybe I'm stuck in the head. What should I do.
I thought about the world around me. Inappropriate language and gestures seem to have become the norm. At work, on the street, in the malls, whereever you turn, you hear the same crude language. I thought in my head that maybe I need to change... maybe this is the language of the generation of today and this is what it is going to be.
Just when I resigned myself to this, I was talking to some folks and happened to mention this issue in my family. The reaction of the person I was talking to shocked me. He asked me in very strong words if I had stopped him and told my kid he wouldn't have a finger. This from a person I have seen do all this and use foul language plenty of times. I was taken aback but not shocked. We are bringing up the next generation where they don't know what to expect. They are are told one thing and see us doing just what we told them not to. We are becoming a culture of do as I say and not as I do.
I am still using my "strict way" as my children say. I continue in the hope that respectful conversation will always be in style. If we don't have control on our tongues what can we control.
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