Needing courage to show fear sounds pretty weird but it is profound. One always tries to hide ones weakness. We never want another person to know we are afraid. It could be pride, or self defense or any number of reasons depending on our life experiences.
I heard this on TV and got thinking about it. When we show our fear, we show our vulnerability. To show our vulnerability, means we need to trust the person we are opening up to. We are risking ridicule and hurt feelings when we open up ourselves and its hard. Letting someone see you at your most delicate emotional moments is extremely hard but that is the best way to grow any relationship.
I've always been very independent and pride myself in not crying. My mom says there's nothing that can make me cry :). That's not really true. I just don't like anyone thinking I'm not tough. I'd feel all the emotions churning when I see an emotional movie but would never ever admit to have been touched.
Coming to acknowledging not being so tough, I'd like to share a story. I don't mind the small spiders but the large ones scare me out of my skull. I once saw a HUGE spider in the bathroom and called my husband. He was surprised that I needed his help. He kept a teasing grin and got rid of it. But after that, he gave me a big hug which seemed to say - its great to take care of you. Left me feeling very good inside.:)
It made me realize that people who love you need to know you need them to. They will love you with even more love because the deepest love I think comes from not being afraid to show you're afraid. A Mother's love is characterized as the most sublime because a mother would do anything for the child but she has the encouragement to grow that love. The child does not hide his/her feelings and weaknesses from her. So if among the people we love, we acknowledge each other and our need without worrying about being ridiculed, I can't imagine why relationships just won't keep getting better.
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