Love a behaviour ?

The hardest thing to do I find is to be loving towards someone all the time. From my husband to children to friends, my emotions are on a roller coaster. In my down times I wish I did not have anyone and in my up swings I just thank God for these wonderful people in my life. No matter where I am on that swing, my love doesn't change but my behavior does.
My immediate family always bears the brunt on my mood swings. It is true, there is no place like home to let yourself go and that's what I tend to do. They have seen me at my worst and at my best. They have also seen me in my pretend best where right after I finish yelling at them, someone comes up to the door and I am all smiles. I often amaze myself at my acting abilities. If its someone I like at the door, its not acting any more. I actually like having them there and it really helps me calm down and I am  almost back to my "normal" self when they leave. But unfortunately, the aftermath of my storm still remains.
It is hard to not let go sometimes because I don't want my anger to pent up in me and blow up. Thats my theory at least. I have been trying hard to check myself and it is hard.
So is love a behavior? I would think so. When I look at the way I behave towards different people, its really obvious. When we date someone, we want them to really desire us. We are at our best. We do what pleases them sometimes even at our inconvenience. When we love a friend, we go out of our way to do things for them, talk to them, help them, be around them and try to make things pleasant. The problems arise when we start taking our loved ones for granted and focus our niceties on the things and other people. We are so busy being nice to the person on the street that we sometimes forget that the persons we need to be nicest to, the people around us most of the time are the people we need to focus on more. We are often with our own children while going out of our way to be patient and nice to other kids. Shouldn't we be saving some of that for our own ?
It is great that we put effort in being nice to the people around us but equally important or more so is the effort we put in for our loved ones.
We need to make sure the behavior around the people who love and care about us leave nothing to be desired or one day we might turn around and see ourselves in a sea of superficial people with those who made life meaningful missing.

“What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family.” 

Mother Teresa